It’s hard to look in the mirror and see what’s really there. We want to look gorgeous, glamorous and thin, just like the model on the magazine staring at you from the counter top. It’s what leads us to paint, curl, straighten, diet, and spend a fortune on our clothes and makeup, and still feel inadequate.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to look our best and we should spend time making our hair and makeup look great, we should feel good in our clothes. I just hate that we do all those things and yet we still stand in front of the mirror and find ourselves lacking.
Confidence is the number one beauty tip I wish every girl would put into practice. It sounds like a corny cliché, but it is the absolute truth. I clearly remember the first time I fully believed it. I was watching a movie and the actress Catherine Keener was the lead. She stood tall, walked with perfect poise and spoke clearly and with complete self-assurance. She was gorgeous and an object of desire in the movie. Then, I saw her in a different role not long after. She still looked exactly the same down to the haircut, but she was playing a totally different character. She was quiet, and had a downtrodden demeanor. She slouched around, tried not to take up too much space, and fiddled with her clothes and hair. She was more or less ignored, certainly by men. And she looked exactly the same as she had in the other movie!
This hit home to me. It clearly illustrated the difference confidence makes to everything. If you don’t feel comfortable in your own skin, you will fade into the background. You don’t have to be supermodel-gorgeous. (Very, very few women are, and they’re all married to rock stars anyway so it’s not like they’re competing with you for the cute guy in your English class). It’s how you present yourself.
Practice! Hold your head up, look people directly in the eye when you talk to them. Always speak clearly and loudly enough to be easily heard. Don’t cross your arms in front of you when you’re chatting with someone, use open body language. When you’re genuinely interested in the person you’re talking too, they can feel it and they will automatically respond to you. It’s said that charisma can’t be taught but I’m not sure I believe that. I think we all have it in us to be outgoing and charming because I really think that that’s whom we all are inside. Most of us are just afraid to put ourselves out there to that degree. But the irony is, the more confident we are the more we put other people at ease. We teach people how to treat us. When we project self-assurance, we are giving other people permission in a sense to treat us with respect. It’s a cycle that gets stronger the more we do it.
I can give girls lots of beauty tips – how to do your hair, your makeup, how to dress. But if I can’t get this one across then nothing else really matters that much.
Love yourself, inside and out. Know and believe that you are special and beautiful, and everyone else will believe it too.
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